The start of this year has brought me to find out more about myself. It’s 9 days into the year and I have found my first major pet peeve. I am not someone who easily gets annoyed by someone else’s actions. It does occasionally happen, but only rarely. If you get to know me then you quickly realize that I’m not someone who shows anger often, annoyance yes, but rarely anger. When I realized that there is one thing that gets me angry at someone, I found my first major pet peeve. I hate when people make promises and then break them or never even intend to keep them.
The idea of making a promise was created to use it scarcely and only when you wanted to verbally commit yourself to do something for someone. Recently society has changed that, and the words “I promise” are used so loosely that they barely have a meaning. Most people don’t even expect others to keep their promises anymore. A lot of the people surrounding me, that are close to me, have been making promises to me recently, and about 10%, if even that, have been upheld.
People make promises just to make someone feel better at that moment. Most of these people never intend to keep their promises, they only mean to make them. In some situations, it is understandable why a promise wasn’t upheld, such as an emergency, but in most situations, it’s mainly because the one making the promise has changed their mind.
This gets me angry because if they didn’t mean to keep their word, then they never should have said “I promise” in the first place. I would rather take the truth and have them tell me that they won’t make the promise because they won’t keep it. I wonder if promises have even a tiny piece of worth to those who make promises just to break them.
Wow, I can really get where you're coming from on this pet peeve. It annoys me too when this happens, and I've come to just not expect promises to be upheld over time. Honestly, if there's anything to be said about the people who make and break those promises, their reasoning is probably that the promise was over something minor, they simply can't say no to anything and just aren't assertive enough, or don't care that they let you down. If the people you trust keep breaking promises, that's obviously someone you shouldn't rely on to keep your back covered. "I promise" is a pretty easy thing to say, but the trouble is in upholding it, and some people have loose tongues or a stone cold heart.
ReplyDelete