Katie Madson Week 9: Cheesecake or Brownie?

I was having a conversation with my boyfriend recently about the Cheesecake Factory. We were going there for dinner with his family. I told him how I loved it there and my mom always finds an excuse for us to go. He said he liked it too, but did not like cheesecake. I was taken aback. I love cheesecake, especially from there! He then proceeded to tell me how his aunt would get him a brownie instead, but he said that was very good. I love a good brownie, but cheesecake is cheesecake! Throughout the day, he continued to make comments about how he did not know if he could be with someone who liked cheesecake, and me likewise. It was all in good fun, but it really got me thinking; when is it okay to disagree and when is it not?

Obviously in this case, a disagreement in desert choices, it is okay. But when does that end? I am not just talking about relationships, but friendships too. There is a point where a disagreement can lead to an end. Arguments themselves do not end relationships, but the topic of the argument does. I do know that this is not always the case, but that is what I am focusing on. A difference in the taste of food does not matter as much as a difference in values. If your friend treats another in a rude way and you decide you do not want to be around them, this is because of a difference in value. Many couples break up because they have different futures that do not align. Maybe they like the same dessert, but they like different lifestyles.

The saying “opposites attract” is very popular. If you think about this, is it really true? Sure, maybe little things like tastes or interests can be opposite of one another, but can values? My answer is no. What is yours? Do you believe in this analogy? When do you think a disagreement can lead to an end. My final question is this: Cheesecake or brownie?